Friday, August 10, 2012

A "Mani" of Character Displays Much Fruit

           Overhearing a couple of young ladies in a coffee shop discussing past loves and dissatisfying relational results it was very heartbreaking to me as I am also the ear of another sister of a friend I knew crying "on my shoulder" if you will about an individual that pulls her on an emotional roller coaster of cheating, jealousy, and controlling life pattern...

             I was continually left wondering the same thing when my ex had inappropriate relationships with a coworker amongst other relational mishaps of my past..

  Until..........     I realized i was living for another individual to "complete" me...   Which has been a common theme I have heard...

    God has a plan for all of us and he hears our prayers and desires and he gives us plenty of direction for successful relationships...

     If you really love someone you desire to immerse yourself in their beauty...  What color are their eyes, how do they smell, what are their hobbies, do they have a specific musical taste, can we talk on the phone and struggle to say goodbye even if calling them back after dinner...  This is the very process that increases our love but also our appetite to learn more...

     So ...  the process laid out in the Bible is a very very successful one....

look for the individual displaying the fruit of the spirit.

Ephesians 5:22-23a
But the fruit of the Spirit is Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, faith, gentleness, self control....

  And he also tells us the warning signs:

Eph 5:19-21

  Now the works of the flesh are obvious. sexual immorality, moral impurity, promiscuity, idolatry, sorcery, hatreds, strife, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambitions, dissensions, factions, envy, drunkenness, carousing, and anything similar. I tell you about these things in advance--- as I told you before-- that these who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God..

     Yes I have been careless in my decisions in the past deciding i could let one character quality slide because .....  I really thought they were "cute"...  hmmmm  not good ....

  So my advice on how you will be able to discern or "discover" possible hidden character traits that aren't as easily seen when you initially "fall" for someone...

   Get "lost" in God first...  to know the qualities of the fruit of the Spirit learn about your first love..  

     Mathew 6:33
But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you. 

    How great will it be to find another individual lost in God first as they practice a giving love, unselfish and willing to ------------

put God first,
treat others including you better than him/herself
which may include truly placing a desire to take the time to "know you" just as their first love is Jesus, there will be a definite long lasting desire to truly be silly enough to 

Find out what it is like to put on your fav fingernail polish... Think about it ...  

A man that seeks God and his instruction and love will be more apt to treat you as Christ treated the church..  In order to do that Christ would "know" his bride the church...  

And men :  Think about a woman that cared to stay up all night with you comforting you as you struggle to start that family car that broke down at the most inopportune time...  

Two people seeking God first, not practicing fleshly exploits but the life following the example set for us in the Bible..

  Crazy......  Not as crazy as the purple stained fingers i am displaying in public for my blog fans..   I pray that this may lead others to know Jesus in a real personal way immersed in the Bible..

Love to you all
servant timothy



  1. Amazing post! Love it! So much truth! We must first come to know Christ and seek Him before anything else! To know Christ is to gain "Everything"! Thanks for sharing!...Btw, nail polish doesn't suit you...sorry..had to tell ya the truth!..yuck!

    Sister in Christ,


  2. I agree.... And I apologize for the gross display proving there is a definite reason men are not to be feminine... Ha ha :) ty for taking the time to read my post

    1. haha..i know..loved the point made.. *thumbs up*..

  3. I agree with Katey about those verses! Got right to the point with so much truth. And as for the nail polish, yeaaah, lighter would have been better but it looks great with the fruit. Glad you had the courage to do it! ;) Lol. . .Great post!

    1. Ty rachel, God has been carrying this... And your prayer has also encouraged me.. You can't even imagine how God used you.. This was the day of the accident a year ago.. I had such a joy and peace.. you, zack, and katey among others have been a gift from God

  4. I Love how God always speaks so very clearly to us...

    God's love says I may not need this, but you need it and I'll put your needs and desires above my own.
    Human love is based on the one who is loved. The mentality is I can love you because of what you do for me.
    But divine love is based on the lover, saying I can be sacrificially involved in your life even at a high cost, even if I get nothing in return. Divine love is a choice we make to sacrifice, to act, to do that which is loving regardless of how the person responds.
    Our love for others should be the same, a love that goes beyond affection to self-sacrificing service.
    Before seeking any other relationship we need Jesus Christ. A relationship with JC must be the first priority. He needs to be #1 in our life. We need to be content in him. To be one who is being used by him serving him.
    Before entering into a relationship we need to be happy and content. Getting what we need from God. Enjoying the love of God and being filled with the spirit of God. Wanting to give to someone. Then God brings someone along so you can give. You are not in the relationship to get you are in the relationship to give.
    Two people desiring to give, that when they get together the thought is...Oh I have someone to give this to. 100% giving on both sides.

  5. This is so very true.. The more I fall deeper in love with my God I find myself more interested in the needs of others ahead of myself and when I look at the beauty of the other people around me it also becomes a very filling rewarding experience when God gives us the exact thing to give to another as He intended for His resulting Glory.. Thank you for your conversation and words of truth Tearsa Joy....